new or good - a question of time with friends
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As we settle down in our "latter years of life," we have more and more friends that we value. But as who choose to spend more and more time with good friends, this means less and less time reaching out to any thing or any one new. This has been a big dilemma in my heart lately. RL made a good point: its about priorities and priorities are based on what you value. Yet, when every I choose to to spend time with the really cools friends I already know, I can't help but feel like I am not making myself available to others and the the (the Spirit can be quite convicting!).
I think my original words that my existing "friendships are at risk" is the wrong words. But I am considering this: my friends who do not continue to try and reach out to new people, I tend to have less to talk about with and find less a desire to hang out with them. I find myself drawn to people who have an invitation mentality. I think the worst thing is, I feel animosity towards when the group doesn't want anymore people to join its "inner circle." Probably those who know what LSG means at New Hope would understand why the structure makes my feel uneasy.
To everyone who considers what I am saying: I pray that we may all look forward to an eternity together. While on this earth, I hope we all can invite a few others to come spend eternity some where nice.
As we settle down in our "latter years of life," we have more and more friends that we value. But as who choose to spend more and more time with good friends, this means less and less time reaching out to any thing or any one new. This has been a big dilemma in my heart lately. RL made a good point: its about priorities and priorities are based on what you value. Yet, when every I choose to to spend time with the really cools friends I already know, I can't help but feel like I am not making myself available to others and the the (the Spirit can be quite convicting!).
I think my original words that my existing "friendships are at risk" is the wrong words. But I am considering this: my friends who do not continue to try and reach out to new people, I tend to have less to talk about with and find less a desire to hang out with them. I find myself drawn to people who have an invitation mentality. I think the worst thing is, I feel animosity towards when the group doesn't want anymore people to join its "inner circle." Probably those who know what LSG means at New Hope would understand why the structure makes my feel uneasy.
To everyone who considers what I am saying: I pray that we may all look forward to an eternity together. While on this earth, I hope we all can invite a few others to come spend eternity some where nice.
posted by jeribear @ Monday, October 23, 2006
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Everyone handles friendships differently. Some can only take so much, me, I'm blessed by them all (and more)! =) Even though some of my old friends may not be in the same physical proximity or same circles as me anymore, doesn't have to mean that our friendships are at risk. You just have to prioritize which ones are worth your time to keep in touch with. =)
Risk maybe wasn't the best words... continued growth in friendship is probably a better phrase. I guess I just "prioritize worth" based on how available people are to me. My outlook, if they are very happy with their life and I never see them much, then I don't want to be in the way or a burden. Now if they are deep down crying inside and just too shy to apprioach me, that's a different story. And the whole thing about "catching up" but never going anywhere with a friendship is still tough for me to want to do.
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